How to Communicate Better with Body Language Secrets
By: Peter Murphy
"I don't let my mouth say nothin' my head can't stand."
Since the 1970's, learning how to communicate better has had a lot to
do with understanding body language.
Julius Fast wrote a book entitled, Body Language in 1970. He talked
about a new science called Kinesics. It opened the way to more
studies and books on the subjects. Today, the term Body Language is
very common and understood as an important element of communication.
In fact, experts in the field of communication suggest that there is
a rule that says that 7% of the meaning of what a person is saying
comes from their words.
Interestingly, 38% is based on the tone of their voice. 55% of the
meaning comes from the body language of the person that is speaking.
This rule comes from research that was published in the late 1960's.
Some now think that the percentages from this research might be
slightly different. Nevertheless, the bottom line is still the same.
If you don't know the basics of body language, you are missing a
valuable tool for learning how to communicate better. We speak body
language on a subliminal level, without actually realizing that we
are communicating through body talk.
The most expressive part of your body is your face. When you enter a
room if you feel nervous, your expression might make you look aloof
Smiling at the room is a sure-fire way to remove anyone's doubts
about your approachability. Smiling makes us look warm, open and confident.
They say the eyes are the windows to the soul. They certainly give
people clues about what we are feeling.
A direct gaze towards someone can show interest- direct staring on
the other hand can mean an intense dislike. Very little eye contact
can show that you are shy.
Have you ever watched someone's hand gestures when they are talking?
Open hand gestures tend to make a person appear open and honest.
Bringing hands together to a point can accent the point you are making.
Wringing your hands or excessively moving your fingers and hands will
give away nervousness. It can even make someone look dishonest- are
they trying to hide something?
If you lean towards someone you are showing an interest in that
person. If we are feeling low in confidence, we tend to slouch our
shoulders and look down.
Men and women use different body language. For instance, women will
stand close to each other, hold eye contact with the person they are
talking to and use gestures.
Men make little effort to maintain eye contact and don't rely on the
use of gestures to communicate. Men and women can learn how to
communicate better by observing the differences in their use of body language.
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