I believe innately we all do our best. We work with the tools
available to us at the moment. With that in mind, a lot of us do let one
person down, a lot..look in the mirror. Yes that is the person. We do try.
Yet often we fall short of the commitments we have promised ourselves.
Here are some examples (from my own life). I am going to loss 20 lbs. this
month, this is my last cigarette--for sure, I am going to exercise every
morning from now on, no more sweets, etc.
There is a common theme is all these proclamations. They expect a lot, some
were 100% or nothing. So what did I do, I FAILED! I let myself down. Over
and over again. I had the best of intentions, yet most of the time I FAILED. This was
recorded by my ego, so the next time I tried something I always heard "Sure
you said that before, and look what happened". And I knew the voice was right.
Until, I discovered a trick. I started only committing to projects I knew I
could do, and would do, no more. And you know what, I succeeded every time!
My life changed! I felt so good. And, I was fulfilling my dreams.
Example: I wanted to get the hardwood floors redone in my house. Instead of
committing to getting it done (I had been thinking about this for a year
already!) I made a commitment to call some professionals and get a
phone estimate within one week. Well, not only did I call and get the
phone estimate, I had set up an appointment for someone to come to my home
to examine the floors. I had set a goal and not only did I attain it, I was
now a super achiever.
I really got it! I now set small and attainable goals and I always succeed.
Of course there is an option to achieve more, but that is now an option.
(Another upside, less stress.)
I now "keep my word" to myself. NO more sense of guilt or failure. And it
was so simple. In fact I overlooked it for years opting to "struggle", and
try so hard.
☻ By setting small attainable goals (one by one) the hardwood floors
were refinished in one month.
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